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How to Deal with Those Darn Roommates
You step out of the car, heading across the lawn toward your new apartment. You’re fresh in college, excited about the prospects of studying, friends, and… secretly, you’re also a little pleased about the idea of getting away from your annoying siblings who mess up the house, take all your food, and yell and scream and drive you crazy.
Guess what, new student?
Roommates can be even worse than siblings, at times. They do all of the above-mentioned activities and then some. If you’re worried about dealing with roommates or you’ve had bad experiences in the past, look no further. Here are a few reasons why you should work with your roommates and a few suggestions on how to do it.
Why even try? You’re probably going to be gone in a year anyway. Is it worth getting along with your roommates? The answer, my friends, is a big, fat yes. Here’s why:
- Friendship: Your roommates in college can become your best friends, even after the graduation cap is off. I know I still call my old roommates to get together and ask how they’re doing. It’s great to make these long-lasting friendships.
- Contention: No one wants to live in a house that’s full of fighting. Work with your roommates to keep your apartment a peaceful place that’s inviting to you and to others.
- Live Better: Trust me, you want to be able to come home and relax. College is hard, and if you can’t have a sanctuary in your apartment, it will only be harder. Cooperate with roommates to make the apartment you live in a great place!
- Help Each Other: Your roommates whom you’ve made strong ties with will be there to help you out. They’ll drive you places, quiz you for tests, and you’ll do the same for them. It’s great having so much support so close to home.
Tips for Getting Along
It’s wonderful to befriend your roommates and to shut contention outside of your home. Here are some great things you can do to make it happen:
- Respect: Have respect for other peoples’ things and wishes. You’ll want them to do the same for you. If they request that you turn the volume down on your music or that you don’t make so much noise at night, agree. When you need something from them, they’ll be much more willing to listen to you, and you’ll get along better overall. This is the most important tip I can suggest.
- Help Out: When those cleaning checks come around, be the one to get started. Keep your apartment clean even when the RAs aren’t coming around to check. No one can live in a place overflowing with messy dishes, dust, and your dirty clothes. Keep the environment a nice place, and nice people will follow.
- Invites: Invite your roommates to be with you on the weekends! This is the quickest way to make good friends. You’re all new, you all need support, and you’re all living together! Hang out on the weekends in a chill environment; get to know each other when you’re not stressed and studying. It will help a lot in your apartment.
Roommates can become your worst enemies or your best friends. I’ve seen both of these scenarios occur, and I know that it happens. Use these tips to make sure that it’s the latter! I promise, living in an apartment of peace, and friendship is so much better than coming home from a hard day to a place full of bickering. You can make a difference. So, go ahead! Try it. You might be surprised at how long your friendships last.
Tue, 2011-08-16 00:55#2
Don’t live with your close friends if you want to keep them. Rooming with someone shows a new side that sometimes is very unflattering. Trash left for way too long, dirty dishes, poor hygiene. This can really deteriorate a good friendship. Also applies for boyfriend or girlfriend situation. People need space. With friends you feel a need to talk even when it is necessary to focus on school. Set aside time to hang out so you can figure out a separate life away from a close friend. Look for a place with two rooms so you can be alone to focus on school.
Sat, 2011-08-27 12:13#3
Getting along with your
Getting along with your roommates is sometimes very difficult depending on the context. I think that some people are great dorm roommates, but terrible apartment roommates and visa versa. I think the worst kind of roommate is the parasitic flake that leaves you with the cleanup (of hir or her things because you will always do it) and the bills because he or she is not dependable. I had several friends become roommates just to treat each other badly. You bring up many good points about communicating and getting to know your roommate better. After all, close spaces do not make people automatically close friends.
Sat, 2011-09-03 22:57#4
I don't know about you guys,
I don't know about you guys, but I haven't been lucky in roommate department. The last one was the worse. I know, tolerance is important in getting along. For the first few months, I was tolerant. But, at the end, I kind of lost it. I know I probably should not have shouted at her, but then again try sleeping with your roommate's boyfriend snoring all semester!:p I think I am better. Apparently, her last roommate threw out all her stuff like milk and yogurt from her fridge, on her bed and left the room without even telling her!ha ha I know that's not a good thing to do. But, some people can really push you to the limits! :/
Sun, 2011-09-04 09:09#5
Dealing with roommates can be a hassle when you are living on campus and had been appointed a roommate. If you have your own place or apartment and you are renting space to other individuals interview and interrogate those to make sure they will be good living companions. If you are trying to get into a rental that someone else owns or is responsible for make sure you understand their rules and live by them. An established set of rules needs to be implemented when living with another individual or chaos can occur. When both parties know the rules having conversations about breaking the rules are much easier
Wed, 2012-05-09 02:43#6
We always think that when we
We always think that when we stay in a dormitory, we can get rid of our siblings who always mess our rooms. But we never realize that when we move to a dormitory, we also get rid of our parents who actually helps us clean and organize our rooms?lol. This is actually the time when we should be independent enough to clean our place. I have been to the dormitory of my friend and it was a total disaster. We should avoid this because a place like this is not suitable for studying.
When it comes to getting along with your roommate, you are totally right. Having a misunderstanding with your roommate would feel bad, especially if he is the only rommmate that you have. The rule is simple, you just have to respect each other, if your roommate is studying , respect him or her by turning of the television or lowering the volume of your music. I am sure he or she would appreciate that and in return I know that he will also do that to you. Dealing with your roommate is very important because you will be at your room most of the time whenever you don't have class.