Struggling with Success

I believe that all of us go to college with one common reason -- to succeed. Everyone strives very hard to succeed in college. You have to exert 101% effort on all your work. You will havea lot of homeworks to do, quizzes and exams to answer, and term papers you have to finish.  But aside from effort on the school works, you also have to consider other factors such as some people who are suffering from crab mentality. lol. They want to pull down those who are rising up or reaching success.  I have already encountered many people like this and you should be strong enough to deal with them. Just disregard the bad things that they say about you. You have to be strong enough. There are many people like this not only in college but also when you go job hunting, so it is a good thing you have already encountered people like this before you finish college, so that when you go to work, you will not be surprised of these people anymore. As long as you know that what you are doing is right and that you are not stepping on anyone, just do it. Don't mind what other people say.

In college it is really important to learn how to be able to conduct yourself by only being able to rely on yourself.  In real life, you will not always have the support of friends, coworkers, bosses or loved ones, and you need to learn how to make choices and important decisions based on your own knowledge and experiences.  The only way you will ever be able to achieve true success for yourself is if you are capable of finding that success on your own.  Although the support of others is always nice, it will not always be there and college is a “practice run” to learn how to deal with that.  Everybody is working for his or her own path in life in college and your friends will not have the same mindset as the friends you made in high school did.  College is really about learning how to be independent because independence is a necessary trait to thrive in the world after graduation.  If you can’t rely on yourself, then you really do not have much to work with to build a successful future for yourself.  Shed the chains and live your life the way you see fit!

Another thing, even though you’re a failing student when you’re in high school, you’ll realize that you should do something different, something that could lift you up, like something that could bring you from nothing to something in college because it is just in this stage that competition is very, very crucial and very decisive when it comes to your academics and extras. College is your training ground towards your future, so, you should work your trails out in every way and have the greatest effort you can give if you’re an underachiever. I know that distractions cannot be avoided, distractions like bullies, boyfriends/girlfriends, late night outings… well that’s just normal because you just can’t be a flower pot beside your wall to not to envy your friends having the greatest time of their life and you was just burning your eyebrows studying, you just have to schedule your time and balance it to your “extracurriculars.” On the first place, studying and passing is your very first priority when you are in college. Just like that, maintaining your grades (maintaining is not maintaining yourself to not passing, but maintaining your passing grades) while not throwing away the enjoyment of being in college. College sucks when you’re not enjoying it right? After that, after graduating you can do anything you want, you can have a stable job and get married or you could enjoy yourself for finally school is over unless you’ll get another major or have your masters after that.. Ow.. that’s what we call patience level sky.

I could not agree more with this post. Success is not always easy to deal with for this exact reason. People get jealous, try to tease you (pretty sad to do that at the college level). I have been dealing with that and still do ever since I started college. Grades are more important to me than anything in else in college so I work hard to keep them up. It is frustrating when freinds or family are not supportive of your decisions. Maybe people will stay home on a Friday or Saturday night to do schol work. Instead of running off at the mouth or making that person feel guilty I wish others would just respect it and keep it moving. Success brings many opportunities along the way and the last thing a person needs is to have people in their lives who are bringing them down. My advice is to be upfront and honest about your expectations of others and your feelings. For example, when I start a new semester I remind everyone that I will not be on social media as much and that I will be home at least one night on the weekend. I make sure they know if I do not return a text or phone call that I am ignoring them. Sometimes people just need a gentle reminder. A few times I had to distance myself from friends who had too much drama in their lives. It's no that they were trying to bring me down on purpose, but I can only listen to your man problems for so long lol. The names do not bother me anymore. Even at 31 I am called a nerd, dork, loser, ect. I say "yes, but I am that loser with 4 job opportunities on the table, a 3.9 gpa, and a member of numerous honor societies. And yourself...". That usually shuts people up lol.